Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Word to my MOTHER!


SO!!! My Mom is having a birthday today and I would like to celebrate her day by doing a tribute post. Since she would NOT like me to divulge or to focus on how YOUNG she is, I will exploit myself and list something about her for every year she has been MY mother!






33 Things, here we go....


1. SHE IS A SHOPPER! She loves to look, touch, feel, try on, everything. When she is stressed- Shop, When she is sad- Shop, when she needs a release- Shop, when she is happy- Shop. There is never a bad time, and doesn't necessarily buy something all the time, but she loves to shop.


2. In addition to being a shopper, she is a HUNTER! A true blue Bargain Hunter! She can find a great deal on just about everything, and doesn't buy it if it isn't a good deal. In fact, it's almost a disappointment if you didn't get a deal! I can certainly relate to this!! :)


3. She is on the cutting edge of fashion ALWAYS! She is always telling me what is "big" this season, or what is "out". I wonder who tells her... I don't know, but she always seems to know! And she looks great!


4. She is very spiritual. She is sensitive to the things of the spirit and is always sharing stories of faith or quotations from prophets and apostles.


5. She is a great speaker. I have heard some say after she has spoken in a church meeting, "It was just like listening to someone from the General Relief Society Presidency." She really is THAT good....


6. She is a determined person. She lost over 75(?) pounds on weight watchers several years ago and has kept it off. She has actually inspired others to do the same!


7. She is a sporty car kind of grandma. She had a wanted a Saturn Skye
but then remembered that she would need somewhere to put the grand kids, so she decided on a Saturn Vue. Maybe next time....


8. She has terrible teeth. Now don't get me wrong, they don't LOOK terrible, they look great! But because of this, I can blame my OWN bad teeth on genes. Plus- living with "Mr. Nothing has Ever Been Wrong with even ONE tooth of mine", it is nice to be able to call my mom and get sympathy and understanding. :)


9. She loves peanut butter, pistachios and pasta. Unfortunately none of these things are very nice to her...


10. She has these little pear and apple shaped perfume bottles that I loved to look at as a kid. And a tall black bottle of Chanel #5 on a little mirrored tray on her dresser.



11. She is a great Grandma and loves her grad kids soo much! She makes things with them, shops for them (ALL of our kids have a t-shirt for 4th of July, Valentines day, Halloween etc.) and with them (My kids about went CRAZY when she said they could pick out 3 of anything they wanted from the dollar store!!) and loves to have them for the weekend- even without us!


12. She sends a card for every holiday complete with a sheet of stickers.


13. She might not be an athlete herself, but she can cheer with the best of them. She did for me, my sisters and her grand kids.


14. Even though she has very little time to herself, she is a temple worker every other Saturday at a temple 2 hours away, and loves every minute of it. (Plus the fact that there is a great outlet mall on the way home is a bonus too!!)



15. She is resourceful. When they had their house for sale and she had someone that wanted to come over for a showing at the last minute, she started making some homemade spaghetti sauce to make the house smell good. Well- they happened to be Italians and bought the house!



16. She is a leader. She has served in many leadership roles in church. In fact- I am sure she will be called as the General Young Women's President before too long.... At work she is a leader too. Except she pretends not to be. She makes the boss look good, all the time knowing it was HER who did it. :)



17. She fell in love with my dad when she was Mary and my Dad was Joseph in the ward Nativity re-enactment. Actually- I think she said EVERY one was in love with my dad then, she just got to be Mary..



18. She fell in love with my dad for good when her boyfriend put my dad in charge of "looking after her" while he served a mission. And after all these years, he still is. (Thank GOODNESS you didn't wait for that other guy... Geesh!!)



19. She is the most thoughtful gift giver. She doesn't like to give gift cards because she thinks they are too impersonal. You will never forget what my mom got you. It means even more because you KNOW she put a lot of thought, effort, and bargain shopping into it.



20. She works against all odds to help look after her aging parents. She loves and cares soo much about them regardless of the resistance she has to go through to do it.
21. She has worked at the same business for 30 years even though the company itself has changed 4 times. She is more permanent than anything else there!


22. She used to have a makeup kit in the bathroom that I LOVED. It was a treasure chest shaped wooden box with a "Art Deco" type woman's head (is that such a thing?) on it. Inside she had a big thing of pancake makeup, a sponge, and Mary Kay interchangeable lipstick container. She always put her lipstick with a brush.
23. She is a great hostess and most of the family events with extended family are held at her house. She lights candles, sets the table festively, and has hoards of adorable paper products. And I can't forget the little dishes full of candy and nuts.
24. She has endured my dad being the Bishop twice and serving in the stake presidency for over 10 years. In addition to that when we were growing up, he had to go up north to work every week during the winter and only came home on weekends. She always slept with a pair of heavy all metal scissors under her pillow (is that really true? Or were they in her bed side table?) especially after a drunk walked into our house one night when my dad was gone.


25. She used to make spaghetti for dinner but it was always served by candle-light. I love that! Why don't I do that? It seemed every candle in the house was on the table that night!


26. She never let us listen to the song "Jack & Diane" by John Mellencamp, but we all knew the words. Funny though, I remember listening to Donna Summer's "Love to Love Ya ,Baby" without any problem :)


27. She frequently does dinner and a movie night with my dad on Friday nights.


28. She also frequently watches my kids so Nathan & I can do dinner and a movie on Friday nights.


29. Actually she is in New York now watching my sister Nikki's kids so she can go to St. Thomas with her husband.


30. Waited TWO and A HALF weeks for me to come out AFTER her due date. That in itself is heroic.


31. She named me after my uncles girlfriend and a soap opera character. Did she already know how much real life drama I would cause her? (Sorry!!)


32. She a great planner. She is always writing things down and taking notes.


33. She is always there giving great advice, telling me where she found the latest deal, giving us all support, and being a strong, motivated and inspirational mother. Thank you have done and continue to do. I LOVE YOU!

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Oh HAPPY DAY!


So much to celebrate, where to begin?

Of course today is Mothers Day and I am so thankful first for having a great mother. She is so loving and outgoing. She celebrates every holiday and sends my kids a card so we can celebrate too. I come from a long line of strong women and she is no exception. She works hard, she plays hard, she loves hard. I have learned, and continue to learn so much from her. Since her birthday is in a few days, I will leave a few details for that day...


I too, am thankful for a great mother-in-law. She inspires me by being so close to the spirit. She strives every day to improve herself spiritually, emotionally and physically. She has raised 7 AMAZING great kids who all get along! (That is no small feat!!) She stands by and supports her husband without question and has an impeccable home. She has wonderful strong hands from years of owning and cleaning a motel that was just as clean as her own home, but are loving and careful when playing with one of her 17 grandchildren. She can find a song to sing about everything, and has a beautiful voice. She can make anything homemade (much to my dismay as a new wife... Nathan on our first shopping trip together- "You don't make your own syrup or pancake mix?" Me- "Huh? I thought making it from this box WAS homemade....") and it is delicious! Because of her, my husband can get ANY stain out of anything and will get right in there and clean things with me. I am so thankful to her for raising a great wonderful son whom I am proud to have as a husband and father to my children.

I am thankful for the opportunity to be a mother myself. Nothing has given me greater joy or meaning in my life. I rejoice when my kids rejoice and try to make life happy for them. I really try to be a good mom, and I know that I make mistakes, but I will never give up on trying to do better. They deserve that. Thankfully I don't do it alone. I rely HEAVILY on my Heavenly Father and also my wonderful husband. I couldn't do it without them...

Which leads me to my next reason to celebrate today. 12 years ago I was married for time and all eternity to my best friend.

Nathan- It was such a crazy weekend all those years ago with all of us gathered in Chicago for the big event. I will never forget the sick look on your face in the temple, which I thought meant you had changed your mind. Instead it was because we forgot to get our marriage license. I remember speeding to the county clerks office and according to our watches we still had a few minutes left, but according to the security guard, we had better stop banging on the doors trying to get in, or it would be a different kind of honeymoon.

So it went off without a hitch, a day late but worth the wait. You offered to drive to Michigan and I soon fell asleep. When I woke up you said, "Well, we are doing good! We are almost all the way across Indiana already." Only problem was that we were only supposed to be in Indiana for a tiny bit and then head up to Michigan. So we took a different way home that day, a way I had never been before (or since) but it was very scenic and beautiful. Too bad we had people waiting for us!

When we made it there, I was late for my appointment to get my hair done so I had to use whomever was available. Apparently she was available for good reason... When I found you on the couch in the waiting room I said, "Nathan quick. I need to go home and do something with my hair. I look like Little Bo Peep" and then I rushed up to pay the stylist. You came up to us groggy and said right in front of the lady who did my hair, "Why do you think you look like Little Bo Peep?" I still laugh about that! It was a wonderful reception, set up sooo beautifully by my extended family members- I don't think I appreciated as much then as I do now how much work went into that! THANK YOU! It was a whirlwind day ending up back in Chicago for a flight back to Utah early the next day, but I wouldn't have wanted it any other way.

With as many bad choices I have made in my life, I am so thankful for the one great choice I made in choosing to marry you. The one who has made all the difference and loved me through it all. Sometimes I put up a front, afraid that people won't like the "real" me, but you know everything about me and love me anyway. I am so overwhelmed that you love me not because you have to, but because you want to. You support me, believe in me, and love to see me happy. I know without a doubt that you would rather be with me, than anyone else. That means so much. Uhh... I need to stop. Just know. I can't say how thankful I am, but I feel it and it brings me to tears. And you know I don't cry easily. :) Thank you...

Thursday, May 1, 2008

Happy Trail

A sign of the season is a return to what I call the "Happy Trail". We have biked on it, hiked on it, roller bladed on it, run on it, scavenged on it, and it never disappoints. This last time, I took my camera along to record some of the hi-lights of this section. The trail is about 25+ miles long, and we have just taken it in sections so far. Nathan & I want to do the whole trail soon!
Saroya found a beautiful flower with some "friends" (ants) and Jaleigh decided to take them along for the ride..

Then later I noticed that she found lots of friends to take along... Hopefully they were just flowers!

I love that they have random works of art along the trail. This is one of my favorites.

Tons of flowers and greenery line the paths most of the way.


This is new this year, isn't it cute? It looks like it will be a place you can stop for drinks and snacks. So FUN! :)


There is one part of the trail that has just TONS of wild green onion chives growing along the side. The smell reminds me of my childhood.Lets just say we call this little gem TP. Leave it at that.This sight always baffles me. Why is is so hard to grow grass in my own yard, but these little buggers burst through the pavement to thrive??Ever the environmentalist, Ethan found this old tire along the trail and rolled it all the way to a place he could put it in the garbage.

This part is always hard to rollerblade across because the tree drops lots of different things on the trail at different times, but this time of year it looks sooo cool!

We usually stop once we get to the park for a snack and to let the kids play.

The day we were here, there was a storm coming in so the wind was extremely strong. Ethan and Saroya let the wind take them for a ride. They would rollerblade up to the railing and then let the wind push them back.



Jaleigh said she was way too strong for the wind to push her around!

After we have relaxed a bit, we either send Nathan back for the van or we start back. Some people get some help along the way...

I am so thankful for this trail. It seems like such a simple thing, but we always come back refreshed and having had a good time. So if you are ever in the area, we would love the company!

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Happy Earth Day!

It would seem that this picture was posed, but it is just Jaleigh being Jaleigh....

A few quotes from today...

Ethan: Mom, can I go to Kyle's house?

Me: I need you to watch the kids for me while I take a shower.

Ethan: Well- a quick shower would be good because then you can save water AND electricity...Then can I go?

Jaleigh watching a tiny ant suddenly jumps up and frantically runs to everyone she sees...

"Don't step on the ant! Don't step on the ANT!! He's very tiny and he is nice. He dosen't even have teeth! Please don't step on the ant, he has a FAMILY!!"

Saroya sitting down looking at the bottom of her shoe, talking to herself... "Did I step on an ant? I don't think I stepped on an ant."

Happy Tuesday!

Thursday, April 17, 2008

Sunny One (the second)

I don't know that that title is totally accurate, but I'm using it anyway. :) So my little sister is having a birthday! I know she is young but not quite sure HOW young (wink, wink), so I will give her a big ol' 32 Reasons why I think she is so great!!!

1. Her name is Sunny, and she is. What isn't cool about that?

2. She loves growing things. I can't tell you how many pictures I e-mail her like this and she tells me what they are.

3. She has blonde hair and blue eyes when everyone else in the family has brown hair and brown eyes. It gave me hope that one day I might have a blue eyed baby, even though I never did... :(

4. She is a fun mom. When she was here, she had her baby wear a pea costume at the campfire to keep warm.

5. She loves the gospel and has a strong testimony of it.

6. She is super creative and makes cool stitchery.

7. When we were younger she wanted to be a beautiful princess, and since I was happy to be the wicked step-sister, she did all my chores for me. (Sorry!!!) ;)

8. She remembers all the old songs we used to sing from our record player and will join right in.. "Sooner or later you're gonna be comin' around. I bet cha'...."


9. Speaking of that record player- it was hers and sooo cool! It had disco lights on the front. Boy did we have fun with that thing!


10. She had a bird named Snowball when we were little, but she was afraid to touch it so she held on to it with a blanket.
11. When she picked me up at the airport, we rode the shuttle bus around the parking lot 3 times because we didn't know to pull the cord to let them know we wanted off.


12. She is exceptionally modest. She has the smallest thighs in the family and at the beach, she wore a sarong from her waist to her ankles. (And yet, her son was in a speedo... :D)
13. She is embarrassed easily about things I am not embarrassed about. (Ta-DAAAAA!!!) Unfortunately this is too much fun for me.


14. I can't imagine a more perfect husband for her. They are adorable together.


15. She is an excellent seastress, and it's a good thing because they really like to dress up!


16. She almost got her picture taken when she shook the prophets hand.



17. She is super dooper extra extra frugal. (Even more than ME!!)

18. She calls me for advice, even though I am sure she has a better answer than me to begin with.

19. She is an excellent cook, and when she cooks, she cooks for the masses. It is not uncommon for her to plan cookouts for her whole complex, just because it is a nice saturday and why not!

20. She uses big words. I used to tease her about this, but it was just because I didn't understand what she was saying. Now she AND her husband use big words and funny phrases together, and I love it!

21. She saves everything because she is thoughtful. We have had some great trips down memory lane going through some of the stuff she has stashed away.

22. She is one of the few people I can talk to on the phone for a REALLY long time.

23. She is a super aunt. ALL the kids love her...

24. We shared a room as kids and had soo much fun playing "little people", "grandma's attic" "The Price is Right" and anything else we could come up with.


25. She let me do photo shoots of her when we were kids and I wish I had a scanner to post some of those!


26. When Nathan, the kids and I stayed at her house, she woke us up with fresh blueberry muffins!


27. She used to write her name with the picture of a sun and an arrow pointing to a knee.


28. She was named Sunny because my dad's nickname for my mom is "Sunny One".

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29. Saroya is named after her... Sunny, Saroya. See??

30. She is one of the most genuine and selfless people I know. She is always giving. (I think she starts doing her "neighbor gifts" for Christmas sometime around August and doesn't finish until after the new year!)

31. She thinks I am funny, and I think she is. We obviously have so much fun together.
32. She is an amazing wife, mother and sister and I am a better person for having her in my life.

I love you Sunny!! Happy Birthday! (And just so you know, I already have 33 more things in mind for next year!)

Monday, April 7, 2008

Ahhhh Spring....

FINALLY....The first semi-warm and sunny day this year. It felt sooo good to do this...

And this is what Jaleigh did when she saw her bike for the first time after a long, cold winter...


We realized that Saroya grew a lot and she looks funny riding what I call now a "clown" bike... (can that seat possible go any higher??!!)
And we went "out" for dinner for the first time in a very long time...
And we tried to roast these. Most of them fell off the stick into the fire except the one Jaleigh took a bite out of (cold) and decided she didn't want anymore so she put it back. Dirt and all...


It was ok though because we realized that this was just the first, and there are many more to come... Really soon.

Like this weekend at Grandma & Grandpa's house when we did this...

And even Grandpa had fun doing this!
The we ate this from the barbecue... I was soo excited to make my first batch of this for 2008...
Ethan really got into the mood by drinking (and licking) this...

And it all happened at our favorite place in the whole world... Outside.

Ahhhh Spring!!

Friday, April 4, 2008

Good-Bye Cursive?


I was at parent teacher conferences yesterday for my 4th grade son. I pointed out that Ethan could neither read or write in cursive, and wondered when that would be taught. She informed me that if I wanted him to learn it, it would need to be taught at home. I was stunned. I remember that he was introduced to cursive in the second semester of 2nd grade, but only a few letters were taught and even those were barely taught. His teacher said that she used to write everything on the board in cursive, but kids can't read it anymore so she has to print everything in block letters.
Ethan told me that he was given a worksheet in third grade with cursive letter practice as an "optional" activity after work was finished, and one time they were offered extra credit if they could write a paragraph in cursive but that no one did it.

I have talked with my sister and other parents with kids my sons age, and all of their kids are being taught cursive. Most are only allowed to write in cursive at school. My initial thought was that my son is getting an inferior education and I was frustrated. He is a good student and could learn it if it was taught.

After the honors assembly today, I cornered the principal and shared with him my concerns. Of course he told me about all of the new demands on the teaching community and how they just don't have the 15 minutes a day that would be required to dedicate to that education. He said they they have a focus group dedicated to curriculum that has been debating this "hot topic" for about a year, and that they are continuing to investigate the possibilities of what they will do. They have debated if it was even worth teaching it if they DID have the time. He thanked me for my concern.

They have been debating this for a year and they are continuing that debate? Someone, somewhere made a decision for my son and the other 175 kids in his grade that they will not learn cursive. Period.

I decided that I needed to do some research before going to the national media about this injustice. :) My own husband says that it is no big deal and that he never writes or reads cursive in his professional or school life. I realize that most official documents can not be written in cursive, and all of his "important" papers will be typed on the computer, but isn't cursive still valuable?

Surprisingly I found that this is in fact a "hot topic" and that it is being strongly debated across the country.
Some of the strongest arguments against continuing to teach cursive are these:

1. It was developed back in the time of ink bottles and quill pens to reduce blotting caused by lifting the pen from the paper and was later seen as a way to write faster. Something that was initially developed to make writing faster and more efficient is actually more difficult for today's kids to learn especially if they are left-handed or have a learning disability.

2. Cursive can not be used on official documents. Even "good" cursive handwriting is hard to read.

3. Teachers in middle, high school and college require everything to be typed because it is easier to read and easier to catch plagiarism.

4. Cursive handwriting after school is abandoned by over 85% of all students.
5. Children's handwriting is only held up to one standard: Legibility. Beyond that the teacher is only interested in their thoughts which can be expressed in a variety of ways.

According to an article I read, I guess there was a study done in the 1960's because it was noticed that children were having a difficult time grasping the concept of cursive writing.
In that study, administrators and teachers admitted the reasons cursive was still included in the curriculum: “Public expectancy and teacher preparation probably are our main reasons. We doubt that there is significant advantage in cursive writing.”
It does seem a little strange that we would still be teaching something that in the 1960's they considered unnecessary, I guess.
I found another article from The New York Times Nov 1995 that said only 10% of all sent mail was handwritten. That was 13 years ago. I wonder what that number would be now with the advances in Internet, e-mail, and text messaging.
As it said in yet another article
"That leaves personal checks, thank-you notes, journals (those that haven't gone blog, of course), and credit-card receipts as cursive handwriting's main customers."
Proponents of cursive handwriting say that:
1. It triggers the thought processes connected to storing and retrieving information in memory, and it helps early and intermediate readers link letters to sounds and spelling.
2.You need to be able to read cursive-it is still widely used in everything from advertising to invitations.
3. It is "pretty" and historical.
They both make arguments that cancel each other out. Like some say it is faster to write in cursive than print, but then they say it is faster to type on a keyboard than it is write in cursive. There was one argument that was made about SAT scores being higher in the kids who wrote in cursive on their essay but it was later strongly disputed. A lot of arguments I came across were made for handwriting in general vs. keyboarding. All are really interesting arguments.
Some actually propose that cursive handwriting be an elective class that can be taken after elementary school if they wanted to, kind of like calligraphy.

Honestly after I have done some research I am torn. In some ways I DO wonder with all of the school budget and curriculum cuts, why cursive instruction is still there when physical education and fine arts seem to be going instead. On the other side, I wonder what would happen to my children being in a world where "everyone else" can do something that they can't all because they went to a "forward thinking" school that dropped it before many others have (if there are others that will at all even..)
All in all, amazingly it seems like there are stronger arguments against teaching cursive handwriting. However for instance, My mom always writes in cursive, and my grandparents too. Will my kids never be able to read what they write? How I can just hear my grandma's voice (that passed away) when I read those words written in lovely billowy penmanship. Is it the way it is penned that I can recall her voice, or it in the words she uses to describe her thoughts?
I still feel frustrated that a change in my child's curriculum was made without FIRST debating what the effects would be long term, and also without informing us as parents of the change. I know they gave up on penmanship a long time ago (by the way- how do can you give my son a B in handwriting in 3rd grade when you never even worked on it?) and that actually should be where I put my focus with him because he struggles with fine motor skills, but that is another subject. Or maybe it isn't?
I am really VERY interested in what you think about this topic. I will obviously be teaching Ethan cursive at home if he is to learn, but do you think I should encourage them to focus more on it when Saroya goes to 2nd grade next year? Should I push the issue with the school board and principal?
Here are a few other articles I found interesting on this topic if you are interested..